When the child loses control of himself, cannot make his own thoughts and decisions independently, gets frustrated, he wants to blame others for any failure. In this case, his easiest target is his parents. Then he tries to reduce his frustration by blaming his parents.
When the parents start surrendering to the child, the child starts to get scared, the child loses control, then the child starts blaming the parents for everything.
If the child learns to see in the family that his parents blame the child’s grandparents, teachers, neighbors, society, state system for everything, then a sense of responsibility is not created in the child. For example, if the parents keep saying in front of the child, ‘Everything in the country is faulty, everyone is bad, everything is ruined, nothing will happen in this country’, then the child starts learning this ‘blaming game’. He thinks, ‘So, I have nothing to do, the system is bad, the system is responsible.’ Then he himself starts blaming his parents for everything like many other things.
If the child is not given any responsibility from childhood, then, later on, he learns to deny and neglect his responsibility. In that way, I have no responsibility মা everything my parents do. Thus, when he grows up, he still hopes that his parents will do everything for him. But when that doesn’t happen, he blames his parents. A small example is that the child is not able to write the school reading properly, the mother is anxiously collecting the reading by calling the child’s friend’s mother, friend’s father, class teacher every day. Due to this, the way of creating a sense of responsibility in the child is blocked, he does not collect his own reading, which becomes an obstacle in building his social skills. At one point, he started blaming his parents for not getting this unsolicited help.
Children and adolescents in the West, according to their culture, blame their parents or teachers for their good, bad, rights, disobedience, and drug issues. Teachers are responsible.
If the child does not acquire the ability to accept failure as well as success from an early age, then the neighbors, especially the parents, are to blame for any failure.
Sometimes the child becomes aggressive towards the parents due to mental problems like conduct disorder or oppositional defective disorder and starts blaming the parents for everything.